What type of Men Women should not date

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Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,

I did a blog yesterday for guys so I am now making one for women. These are the type of men you should avoid in a relationship. Men also pay attention to see if any of this fits you. If it does, try changing as some of these may end up hurting not just your love life but also family and friendships.

Not the protector: As I've stated before ladies, wanted to be protected is at the core of who we are as women. If a man can't fill this role, we are missing a part of what we need to feel safe. This man will not have taken any courses or hasn't learned any de escalation skills. The big problem with these men is that they have no interest in learning. They'll tell you that you live in a safe neighborhood and get a new security system instead of going to a class with you to learn. They have no motivation to learn and will find every excuse to not. They may even go to a class with you, get beaten, and then proclaim to never go again. Unless you want to be the first line defender of your home, you should avoid these men. When a man puts his mind to something, it takes a big even to change their mind. Don't try to change them, they'll only get frustrated with you.

No purpose: Without a purpose, men have little ambition or determination to make themselves better. This can also mean they won't be a problem solver. They won't push themselves, generally seem lazy, and no accountability for consequences. He will be jumping jobs or hold low paying jobs expecting you to pick up the slack. He may love the idea of you being the bread winner and he stays home to play video games. This will affect your relationship as he won't see the point to better himself even to the point of looks. Ladies why would we want to keep ourselves looking good if the guy we're with isn't attempting to make himself better? Women usually want a prize. This can mean he earns more or he looks better or even maybe has more titles to his name. Without both wanting to improve themselves, the relationship will become ore like room mates and feel stale. Protecting and purpose is at the heart of what a guy is, without this he is a shell of what he could be.

Controlling: These men, just like with women, are toxic. They will control every part of your life. Now I'm not talking about you as a woman putting on an extremely revealing dress and wanting to go to the bar, only to have your husband freak out. Would you want him go to a bar without a shirt on? I'm talking about the guys who want you to wear baggy clothes. The ones who hate all of your clothing that even somewhat shows off your figure. They will be demanding to know where you are and need proof. They will want to be in ear shot of you when you are talking to someone. They ask you your opinion on anything and then do the exact opposite, almost like they asked you to give you hope you had a choice. I'm sure you've seen these types on Dr. Phil. Stay away from these men. This is not a healthy relationship.

Narcissist: These will be hard to spot as they will shower you with gifts and false attention early on. You find out later that they do not care about your needs at all. All attention on them. They will interrupt a conversation you're having to turn it back on themselves. They will do just about anything to get "validation" or appreciation for what they do. They'll seem to throw a fit when you don't realize something they did. This is a one sided relationship and will hurt your self esteem.

The softy: No I am not talking about that down there. I am talking about the man who reminds you of a women. Limp or no handshake. They talk for hours on end on what seems to be a empty conversation. They take the intuitive and back away saying, "Wow, I'm so sorry. I normally don't do that kind of thing." They leave the decisions to you and will expect you to tell them what to do. They jump to defend themselves all the time, like a women does. They are much more in touch with emotions to where they seem to whine instead of talk about a problem. This will frustrate the hell out of you. If you want a man, he will not remind you of one. You'll feel like you are dating a women. If you are more in touch with your masculine side, this may make sense. But for the women who are looking at this paragraph with a "Yuck" face on, keep an eye out for these men. There is more of them now than ever.

Attached to his mother: This one is simple. Yes we love a guy who treats his mother well. But we don't want her in our relationship. The one who talks to his mother daily if not multiple times a day all the time. Almost like a ritual. She will take his side all the time making your opinions mean nothing to your guy. He asked to ask her approval or has to talk talk to his mom first. If he can't be independent of his family, then he is not ready for a serious relationship.

Again these are only suggestions and yes this excludes abusers and cheaters. I hope this helps your future. As always, take hold of your own future.

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