Trust Issues?

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,

Today's topic is trust issues. I've recently reviewed a video from the Steve Harvey Show uploaded in 2015 regarding the "Why do women need to know where we are and what we're doing?" topic. This question produced three top answers:

1. We like details, it's how we're built.

2. We don't trust you.

3. We need to approve of what you're doing

Now 71% said, "We need to approve of what you're doing."

Cue the protests from the men.

"It's the same thing as the second answer!"

Depends on what women mean. The important part if this discussion was the example given by the guy about how his ex wanted him to send her a snap shot of him hanging with his friends. So let's break this down.

Most women will be able to tell you one store their man shouldn't go in because he will end up spending more then needed, So this is a bit more normal. Need examples?

1. Gun store

2. Sports' store

3. Electronics store

4. Vehicle auctions

5. Leather stores (real leather)

6. Fishing stores

Well there are six examples. I'm sure at least one of these may have your normal intransigent position when dealing with persuasive salesmen, suddenly change to a more malleable position, as they show you the newest items. In other words, yes it's the same thing as saying she doesn't trust you in the store alone. Some of you may even agree that this may be the best.

"So what's the difference?"

There is no difference between what the two statements mean. Steve did a wonderful job in the show, trying to convince men that the women were just worried about the choices men may make. In the end, it means the same. So what does this mean for the example given by the guy who asked the question?

It means that his ex did not trust him or she had severe confidence issues. Both of these issues will lead to the downfall of a relationship.

As a man or women, you should never need to prove your whereabouts to your spouse or partner, unless you have cheated. If any man or women wants you to prove to them where you are, leave. You do not need this extra stress in your life, and they are not your parents. You do not need their approval. Now some women will tell you a long winded story about their ex's poor choices he made. Now you really need to leave. This is a red flag.

Why?

By bringing up past relationships to justify their outrageous behavior, they are showing you they have not moved on. There is no reason to bring past relationships into a current one and you should not be paying for mistakes others have made. She/he is telling you that you are guilty until you prove your innocence, and who knows when that will end. In fact it probably never will, leading to a strained relationship later on. It's better to leave and end the relationship before you become much more invested.

Now if she has confidence issues, this may be able to be worked on. Confidence usually needs to be worked on from within the person in question, but I'll discuss confidence in another post.

If nothing else men and women, understand this. You should never have to suffer from your partner's past. Just because some one in their past made poor decisions does not mean you will. Don't let them try to defend their actions by doing this. You do not need their approval. If they believe you do, then they do not trust you, plain and simple.

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