They don't put me on social media, does this mean it's not serious?

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,

If you laughed at this post, you are either a man or from an older generation. Why? This is a millennial question that affects a lot of the younger generation because of the social media era they are growing up in. This also high lights a huge difference between men and women. So let's talk about the differences and why this does not mean your relationship is doomed to fail.

Women love to brag about what they love. From purses, family members, new clothes and many more. It's part of who we are. We love sharing what we feel is important to the world. This isn't meant as a "Look what I have." Instead it's an expression of love. You see as women, what we love is a reflection of who we are. We are also emotional creatures so when a child does something that we are so proud of, we need to shout it to the universe. The same goes for the people we have a relationship with. This is why it is generally women who post on social media about their families.

Men are very different. When they see something they love, they hold it close to their hearts. Men are at the core, protectors. They see everything outside of their family and friends as a threat. It's part of who they are. If they have a 15K diamond, they are not going to announce that to the whole world. Instead they will keep it safe and close to them to avoid any threats that may try to steal it. So online, when it comes to their families, men are going the exact opposite of women. They will share little online. Think about some thing else your man has that he loves. Even better think about his money. Does he sit there and show the whole world the exact amount of money he has or does he keep it to himself? Does he show the entire world or does he keep it in a room? Let me make this clear, any man who treasures you will not keep you in a room or prevent you from leaving the house. Nor will he have a huge issue with you sharing photos of each other or the kids on social media. He will put on Facebook that he is in a relationship with you. Men who do this aren't men. They would be considered control freaks, or worse, Now some of you might be yelling:

"What about the car!"

This is a topic for another post. Even if he does just let the car sit out in the driveway, that doesn't mean he cares about it more than you. In fact he cares more about you than the car because you are kept close to him.

So why does every woman out there say we should be worried?

This is why you need to be careful of who you take advice from. The questions you always need to remember are these three:

Is the person giving me advice from a source of pain?
Is the person giving advice currently in the dating market (Aka my competition)?
How many relationships have they had?
Was it unsolicited?

There were a few men who took advantage of men's natural nature of holding what's precious close, and used it to scout out prospects for cheating. Let me make one thing very clear. Just because one man or multiple men do this, does not mean all men will. If you go into a new relationship with the idea of this then you are dooming your new relationship to fail. Same with men. If a man is cheated on and goes into a new relationship thinking all women are cheaters, he too, is dooming the new relationship. So keep this in mind.

Say you are working and a coworker is talking to you about your lives and experiences. She asks if you are in a relationship, to which you say yes! All happy, big smile on your face, and in love when she asks if he has a lot of pictures of the two of you on his Facebook. When you reply that he has a few, the women then goes on a rant pretending to not care about the advice while she is watching your reaction from the corner of her eyes. She tells you that any man who doesn't post about you all the time on social media, is cheating on you. When you ask how, she will respond that her ex was like that and had cheated on her through out the relationship.

Now let's break this down. She is currently single. Which means she is in the dating market, aka competition. Two, she is telling you this advice because her ex cheated on her. This means her advice comes from a point of pain. Right there is a red flag. Yes advice can come from pain, unless they are generalizing the gender. In this example, she is generalizing that all men who do not brag about you online, are cheaters. On top of all of that, it was unsolicited. The advice was not needed. The person was not asking a question, nor asking for hep. In fact in the example, the person was happy about their situation. Then like looking for a needle in a hay stack, they look for a small thing to cause doubt. They also acted nonchalantly while watching your reaction. So be careful who you take advice from.

Now if you want more photos of him try talking to him Ladies. Men understand that women do want updated pictures of you together so try to understand where women are coming from. Try talking about a new picture of the two of you every year or every six months. Heck you could even go on to her page and steal a picture she has of the two of you that you really like and put it up. Remember no problem will be solved without conversation. So ladies, just talk to your men about this. Don't come of in accusatory way, instead be sweet and show him how happy it'd make you. Communication is the key to a long and healthy relationship.

That's all for this blog post but I really hopes this helps anyone who may need this. In the future posts I will discuss more on watching who you take advice from and what to watch out for. If you have a opinion or a story of your own about this topic, leave a comment and let me know what you think. Have a topic for a blog post? Go to my website and e-mail me and I will thank you when I type the blog. Want to help support me? Share the blog, subscribe to the e-mail, or become an affiliate to help bring traffic. In a world where having an opinion that differs from the current ideologies, traffic helps me stay independent through ads shown on my site. If you want to make a donation go my website where you will see a donate button through Paypal. Thank you to all of my current subscribers and affiliates for the support as I work to bring you new perspectives, or even just a fun read. Stay tuned for the next blog tomorrow!