Setting your standards in a relationship (Ladies' version)

Hello ladies and Gentlemen,

There is a misunderstanding of women and the standards they set in the relationship. Men now believe when a women has standards it means she wants a certain height, look or education level before she would consider a man. This may be the new trend of women asking for too much but this is not every woman. The most successful women are the ones who understand what is to much to demand and set reasonable expectations. Ladies, men are known for striving to better themselves for a woman who is worth the fight. So how do you unlock this part of a man? It's actually pretty simple, if you are willing to put the work forward. Keep in mind Ladies that nothing is simple and you aren't just looking for your special day. You are looking for a partner, a protector, father to your children and someone to be there for you no matter health or finances. To find this you need to set standards.

The first part will be one of the most debated in our society today. Holding off sex for at least 4 months. I can hear the outcry from the females on how unfair it is. The most amusing part about this is that it should be the men complaining not the ladies. The first question you may ask is, "Why"

Think of it like a trial period. Men are becoming skilled at tricks women have used for years. Tables are turning and more men are coming up below the standards because women are allowing it. If a man is acting sketchy from the beginning, why would you sleep with him? So he has a line of girls ready to sleep with him, why put up with that drama? You may think that he wants you to fight them, and maybe he does, but is that really fair? Would you make him fight men or would you make it clear to others that you are taken? Shouldn't he do the same? So this trial period immediately puts a standard down that you are not interested in short term, and that you are not easy. This is not to use against guys as punishment or a manipulation tactic. This is for women who want a serious relationship to set standards in the start of the relationship. Yes men love the bedroom but they also loose interest in long term interest if a woman gives in after a week or two of dating. Don't get me wrong, they'll still spend the night. When you start talk about commitment then they disappear. Why? They already got something. Women you need to make men fall for you before giving in to sex. If you complain that men sleep with you and then move on, then lengthen the time before sex. Let them get to know you. Let them see who you are so they can respect you for more than just a one night experience.

Ask about his plan, purpose, what his goals are. You need to know ahead of time if his goal is to be a manager at Mc Donald's or if he hates kids. Best time to learn this is the first date. Why? Why waist your time with someone who isn't serious? All that time you waste on dates when he isn't serious, is time you could be putting towards a man who is serious. So if his response to your questions on the first date is,

"Hey hold on sweetheart, let's take it slow. This is the first date."

Walk away. He is playing you. He knows that this is your attempt to find out some answers and is purposely blocking you. He is either not interested or not ready for the commitment you are looking for. If he runs away, calls you names, or gets pissed then he wasn't serious and not worth the time.

Hold yourself to higher standards. Something many women forget about that causes relationships to fail is not putting high expectations on themselves. If your bar for the guy is as high as a fence, but your expectations for yourself is only as high as a garden step, why would he put in the effort? A good example of this is when women want a really built guy but then you refuse to go to the gym. If you want a man who improves on himself, you also need to improve yourself. Not only will it make you feel better about yourself as far as confidence, but it also shows that you also, constantly work to improve yourself. Keep your self healthy. Opt for dates that include activities outside, wear dresses and heals when you go out. If you continue to make yourself looking the best, learning new skills, and just generally improving yourself than you'll attract men that will strive to meet those standards. Keep in mind that you not only gain respect from men when you dress nicely but also women as well. This will also help with the younger generation of females rushing to grab men on their purpose. If you have multiple kids and you still are in great shape, most younger women will be intimidating by this. The younger women may not say it, and try to hide it, but they are extremely self conscious. So set your standards for yourself higher ladies and you'll be amazed at the difference it'll make in all of your relationships.

No more laundry lists. I cover this in a lot of my posts, but ladies you need to stop putting a list of demands without showing what you have to offer. Would you buy anything that lists what it wants without telling you anything about the product itself? Probably not. You need to research what men really want and then on the first date put it on the table. Yes make it sound like you are interviewing them. Why? You are and should be. You need to present your resume of the qualities you have that men would want in a women, while also stating what you are looking for. No more focusing on if he likes cats, or has to have a certain eye color. Check out my other blog post, "Dating App Questions" if you are interested in how to achieve this.

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