How do I know if someone is interested in me or just wants sex?

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,

The rules are changing fast for both sides of a relationship. One of the biggest concerns is if someone is into you for the future or just for sex. Unfortunately, there is no alarm that goes off in your head or a light above their head to be able to give you a clear answer. So I'll give you some tips to be able to help you through this.

Are they pushing for sex? So if you are waiting on sex for a few months to get to know a guy before giving it up, or even just not interested in sleeping together after the first few dates then ask your self if they are pushing it. How do you know? Every conversation becomes flirty or sexual. It may seem like he can't break away from that topic. This include compliments as well. All of his compliments will be about the looks and how it "makes him crazy"

For guys it'll be a bit more obvious. A woman will do similar tactics except be even more outward. You may find she's touching your leg, or closer, every time she can while showing off her body.

Another way they'll push for it is if you refuse the "come back to my place". You may find they laugh at you, or insult you. Others may play coy for the next few dates to see if they can get you to just give it up.

Always a night hook up or only calls at night: The hookup time. Maybe he only calls from a bar or always seems to be a bit drunk. Now some men may have such busy schedules that they only have certain time to spend. If your guy has two jobs, then he may only be able to see you at night. So this is to be used along with the rest of the tips. If you find he fits 4 or more of these then you are probably a hook up.

For guys, a woman will be the one concerned about only meeting up at night. A woman will be quick to move it to a weekend during the day to get to know you. So if she only has time at night, she either has kids or she is only interested in hookups.

Only on their terms/they never respond to you: This is where they never respond to you during the day or the only time you two see each other is on their terms. All the dates are planned by him/her. If you try to suggest a new date idea, it is shot down or ignored. Again if a guy only talks to you at night, he may actually be busy but most guys will find a way to text you when they can. Why? They don't want competition to swoop in.

For the guys, a woman will always find a way to text you while she's working if she's actually interested in a long term relationship. Seriously we are queens of sneakily texting during school, work, really any time. So if she says she can't text at work at all because she's just too busy, she's playing you.

You can't get to know them: "Wow, hold on baby. It's only the first date, why don't we just enjoy our meal first." If you know this phrase or one like it, that is a man dodging questions. They will avoid talking to you about their life, dodging questions, and they won't ask about your life. If they do, they will barely be listening and it will somehow turn sexual. They also won't take a protective stance when you are around. No hugs unless to grab at your behind, doesn't put himself in front when he senses a threat.

For men, she won't care about your life. She will make it her mission to avoid all important questions. She will even talk about useless information that doesn't tell you anything important about her life. She also will not ask you anything about your life. She will be determined to not let you protect her. Claiming she can take care of herself and doesn't need you to defend her.

You sleep together, but never actually sleep: We all know the get up in the middle of the night plan. Well this will happen a lot. You wake up alone, or you see them get up at 3am in the morning to leave. This is about as clear of a sign as you can get from either side that they aren't looking for something serious.

They tell you they are not interested in serious: No matter if it's a woman or a man, when some one says they don't want serious, take them for their word! No changing his mind, or she just needs to get to know me. It will not happen. You might as well walk out of the date that instance. Why? It becomes dangerous when you start to get feelings for someone if they are not looking long term.

Sometimes it just takes time to figure out someone is only interested in physical. The best thing is to tell them immediately that you are looking long term. If you are lucky they'll tell you they aren't looking for anything serious and then you walk away. If a man or woman is interested in you they will ask about you, they will text you as much as they can. They won't be pushing for a physical relationship. They will respect you if you say you are holding off on the physical till you get to know them. These are guidelines to help and do not describe every relationship. Always remember to go with your gut. If you feel uneasy or that they are using you, they probably are.

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