Healthy relationship habits for long term relationships

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,

There seems to be some confusion about habits in relationships that are actually healthy. So to help everyone out, I'll give you some signs your relationship is healthy, so you won't listen to those people who try to tell you otherwise.

You don't have to agree on everything:

I'm sure you've heard this but maybe you don't understand. It is not necessary for you to resolve all of your disagreements or problems. "Agree to disagree" may come to mind here. These things will be small in comparison to the relationship. Maybe he uses too much soap when washing dishes. In a successful relationship a woman will be more likely to let it go, because he's doing the dishes. Maybe she loves country music every Sunday morning during cleaning. Instead of complaining, he uses this time to go work on his car. Is the way a toilet paper role goes on really matter in the relationship? Successful couple realize that conflict will happen and it doesn't needs to solved. Sometimes it's better to just let things go when they don't matter in the long run. Does the color of the curtains change the way you feel about her? Does that hour in his mancave stop him from taking care of the family? In the end it is all about the core of the relationship. If the conflict does not seem to affect the core, why waste energy on it?

Don't be afraid to tell the truth:

Yes men, that means man up and tell her about that those jeans do nothing for her rear when she wears it next. I rely on my man to inform me if a new clothing item doesn't work with my body type or the color doesn't suit me. As women we want to look amazing and sometimes trying new styles is a risk. Trust me we'd rather hear it from you than our girlfriends. And if she really doesn't accept that about you then you need to walk. Same thing with you ladies, tell your man the truth. If that new ice cream he loves is really putting the pounds on, then tell him. The one person you shouldn't have to censor yourself around is your significant other. You can not both self improve if you have someone that lies to you to avoid a fight. So be honest. If your partner can't handle it, maybe it's time for a new partner.

Ready to walk away/No one is perfect:

I combined these two as they go hand in hand.

The first thing to always remember is that no one is perfect. Everyone has flaws and some are worked on through out their life. You will not get Ms. or Mr. perfect. Some have a past, others seem to be sheltered. Some may have an attitude, and others may not talk about their feelings. No one is perfect. So you need to be with someone where their flaws are something you can work with long term. If they are working on their flaws then appreciate their hard work to improve themselves instead of telling them they aren't doing enough or changing fast enough for you. No one should change who they are for another, and most won't or they'll hate themselves for it. When someone changes to better themselves is the only time the change will stick. So stop trying to change someone or have them change for you. It's not romantic, and it can be damaging.

I've talked about this in my other blogs. You need to be willing to walk away. Believe it or not, a couple with a good relationship will realize that either of them could leave and find someone else. This keeps both of you working on self improvement. If one of you believes that you're a better catch or that the significant other wouldn't have any success in the dating market, then it's not a strong relationship. This leads many young men and women to take a stride down the "open relationship" road. Normally there is a belief on one side that the other wouldn't be a catch. As soon as that is proved incorrect, they are quick to end it in fear of the competition. This is a good indication of a toxic relationship. Even in marriage, if either partner stops taking care of themselves, or no longer self improves then you should walk away. There is a romantic idea about marriage. The idea that marriage solves all problems and after you say "I Do", it's white fences and happy life. The idea that two years is enough time to know someone enough to marry them. Instead take your time with marriage. See how they handle stress, unpredictable circumstances, money and what their spending habits are like. Two years is not a long time and someone can easily keep a fake personality to deceive you. If you do make this mistake then know, no matter religion or beliefs you need to be ready to walk away from a bad marriage. Take time to heal yourself, and when you are ready, take it slow.

You can find other people outside of your relationship sexy:

Have you have ever met those couples that are able to talk to each other about how a stranger looks and wondered, "How can they do that?'

No, they probably aren't sleeping with other couples. This is called confidence in the relationship.

"But we should only have eyes for our partner!"

Biology does not agree with you. We are each attracted to certain traits. The difference is if you act on it. From men and women I've talked to and been around, the ones who have no issues talking about the attraction of strangers or people they meet, are more likely to succeed long term. Why? Communication and letting those feelings go. Suppressing these feelings can be very damaging and can lead to one succumbing to them. Think of it when someone you're dating suddenly stops talking to you. It drives you insane, especially if you were really starting to care for them. Same idea. Talking about it with your significant other also gets rid of any guilty feelings as your partner affirms that person is indeed attractive. By admitting these feelings and then letting go of them, you are making the choice instead of the feelings. People who suppress it are the ones who end up cheating, the ones who take out their frustrations on their partner, and the ones who talk about the past with a romantic view. Having the knowledge that there are people more attractive than you and your partner, as well as the confidence that you both are happy with each other, enough to turn down any possible advances or feelings. This also helps to ease any jealousy as your partner will realize that someone more attractive didn't have a chance at pulling your partner away. When we commit to a person either through marriage or a long term relationship, the only thing that separates us from others in casual relationships is the actions we choose. We choose to be with only one person because we love that person, trust them, and they make us want to better ourselves. So instead of feeling guilty next time a sexy person walks by and winks at you, talk to your partner about it, and then let it go. If they are confident in themselves and the relationship, there won't be the jealousy and yelling you think there will be.

Spend time away:

I can not stress this enough. Take time away. Not all the time but a few times a year so you both get time to enjoy yourselves. You both don't have the same hobbies so spend some time away so you both can go enjoy your hobbies. There is no need for both of you to do everything together. You both can have your friends, you can both have your own hobbies, and you both can spend time alone. It's very healthy in a relationship. Time apart will remind the other why you fell for each other, what you miss in them when apart. You'll both come back to each other stronger than before as the fire burns brighter.

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