Dating App questions?

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,

With the increasing use of dating apps you may be wondering, "How do I answer these questions?" Today we will discuss how to help you make yourself standout from other profiles by simply answering these questions.

What are you looking for: This could be how the question is phrased or it could be "The ideal qualities I look for" or " green flags I look for". Anything that is asking what are you looking for. This is different for men and women so let's separate these two.

What are you offering: I can feel the incredulous stares from beyond the screen. Hear me out. Take these apps like a interview process. If you wanted a job, wouldn't you express what you have to offer them? Why not with a relationship as well? How to do this? Well what are qualities that you have men will want? This may come down to a bit of research. Men aren't so concerned with a career woman unless they are looking for a woman to provide. So say you are a nurturing soul. You could start by saying, "I am a kind, nurturing soul looking for.." or if you are a traditional woman, "I'm a traditional woman looking for...." Maybe you are the one who organizes everything in your home, even the socks. "With a skill for organization..." Love cooking? "Having a passion for cooking, I'm looking for..." In essence, start it with what you have to offer. As most people on dating apps don't think about this, this can easily put you above the crowd by showing you are considering what someone else may be looking for.

Women: If you are putting, empathy, loving, supportive, compassionate, you may be typing the wrong information. Why? Is that actual what you are looking for? This is normally what men will be looking for. So if you are a hard core career woman, who wants a gentler man then this is perfect. Not what you want? Okay then lets look at what you really want. Think of a male figure in your life that you have the ultimate respect for. It could be your father, uncle, grandfather, whoever that to you symbolizes what a man is. Now think what qualities about him you admire? Is it because you always feel protected as child around them? Did they always know how to solve a problem? Were they handy around the home which saved your family money? Was he honorable? Determined? Driven? Think about the qualities that you admired best that you'd want in your partner. Then list it. Something like this:

"With a passion for cooking, I'm looking for a protector with a sense of honor and humor who's not afraid to try new recipes."

"With a skill for organization and budgeting, I'm looking for a strong, handy man who can think of out of the box solutions to any problem."

This shows what you have to offer while highlighting what you deem to be the most important qualities based on the male role models in your life you respect.

Men: You also want to start off by writing what you have to offer. Are you down to earth, logical, love solving problems, know how to defend yourself, sense of humor? What ever your quality you have that women are looking for, start with that. So here are some examples:

"I'm a down to earth guy..."

"I can build a deck or fix your computer. What I'm missing is.."

"Boxing is my past time while I dedicate myself to building homes for families. What I'm looking for..."

Again these are just examples of ways to show what you have to offer before showing what you're looking for.

For what you are looking for, think about the women in your life that you respect. How would you describe them? Nurturing, compassionate, caring, kind, understanding? Think about what you respect or love most about those women role modals in your life and then which qualities you want in your partner.

"I can build a deck or fix your computer. What I'm missing is a nurturing, intelligent woman who can see things from a different point of view."

"Boxing is my past time while I dedicate myself to building homes for families. What I'm looking for is a gentle, compassionate woman who can remind me why family is important."

What is the biggest risk you've taken: This doesn't mean it has to be something out of the ordinary. Maybe for you, deciding to loose weight was a risk for fear of failure. Maybe investing for the first time was a risk because you didn't want to loose all your money. Was trying online dating a risk because putting yourself out there is hard? You also don't want to keep it as a one word answer. When answering this question keep this outline in mind.

What was the risk?

Why do/did I consider it a risk?

How did it change me or why am I taking this risk?

What was the risk? Working in construction.

Why do/did I consider it a risk? I never thought of myself as a hands on person.

How did it change me or why am I taking this risk? I learned that with determination I could do anything I set my mind to.

What was the risk? Loosing weight.

Why do/did I consider it a risk? I had a fear that I would fail and feel worse about myself.

How did it change me or why am I taking this risk? As a woman, I've never felt more confident about how I look than since I reached my goal.

Again these profile questions should be answered, honestly and thoroughly. Why? Because just like with an interviewer at a job, you want to make yourself as attractive and truthful as possible to stand out from other profiles. So now take this new insight and apply it to other questions these aps may ask you. Remember to consider what someone else may be looking for that you have and what qualities you admire that you want in a partner.

As always, take your future into your own hands!

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